Hey everyone! At the beginning of the year, I promised you I would do better than last year and the year before and will do my best not to disappear for an extended period of time. Well, I failed I disappeared. Life got to be too much.
Yes, a lot is going on in the world that we are all facing and trying to make sense of. In just a matter of months, we had a virus sweep through and kill so many and is still killing. Which closed the nation including jobs, schools, parks and so much more. Then the riots and the looting all because we can’t seem to treat every human with equal respect and dignity. And don’t get me started on how the President is out of hand.
There has just been a lot and it is only June.
However, that is not the only thing that has kept me from posting and the business. I had to take a step back to protect my family. All of this combined forced me to take a mental break before I had another mental breakdown.
The panic and anxiety attacks came back as well as insomnia. I still had my day job because bills had to be paid but come to the end of the day when I work on the site and write I was so drained and overwhelmed, not only with the world in crisis but a personal issue that left me so paranoid and frustrated words can’t even define my state of mind.
Did you know you or your kids could be playing in your yard or gardening and if someone wanted to film you or watch you or your kids all they have to do is stand on a public road or in their yard?
Yes, you are in your yard but just because you are in your yard doesn’t mean privacy laws protect you.
Greg and I moved to the country a little over 2 years ago.
We are renting a little house in the middle of nowhere Colorado Kansas border. Our neighbors moved in about 8 months after we got here. We both rent from the same property owner and have the same landlord. All was good until Feb/March of this year.
We rescued Coco in September and he is a great pup! However, because he is a pup and like any kid, he wants to push boundaries so when outside out of the yard he is either on a leash or a 20-foot tether.
I do have a shock collar for him, but I don’t like to use it since he got the silicone nubs off so I only use the beep mode or the vibration.
Our neighbor got a pup at the beginning of the year. He is the type that believes in taking the silicone nubs off the shock collar and using muzzles trains dogs faster and is more efficient. He also is the type to think he is always right.
My husband asked him over and over again not to let his dog run free near Coco when Coco was on a tether they could both get hurt and the kids could also get hurt. Sorry but if I am not outside the dog isn’t outside meaning if I am outside with the dog so are the kids. Not to mention he had to bring both of his dogs to the vet after a dog fight. He also had a severe sprain ankle which my husband had to bring him to the ER for after he broke up 3 dog fights on the same day.
Well, the neighbor didn’t listen, he allowed his dog to run up and play with my dog in our front yard when Coco was on the tether and my husband lost it. Eli got burned by the tether and my dog got wrapped in the tether.
I got in the middle told my husband to back off and asked the neighbor just to respect we have different ways. Which he responded he will not respect us and used some words I will not type in this post.
The landlord and landowner told him his dogs need to be on leashes unless they are in a fence. Rules this neighbor has not listened to or followed what so ever. The landlord went to measure for fencing.
The fence never went up because a few weeks later the maintenance guy went to fix the pipe on his pellet stove and he took a rifle and pointed at the poor guy who just came to do his job. Whether he knocked or let himself in is up for debate, but I can tell you every time he comes over to our house he knocks or rings the bell he has never let himself in.
When all this was going down at the neighbor’s house Greg was grocery shopping for us and a different neighbor because the pandemic just hit. As for the kids and I, we were disinfecting the house for the 3rd time that week. Once all the groceries were divided, delivered, and put away we went outside to enjoy some fresh air.
I didn’t want any animosity with the neighbor we share the property with so Greg went over and had a friendly chat. Greg apologized earlier that week for losing it the day of the tether incident and we even offered to pick up groceries for them if they needed.
Once their conversation was done the shouting between the landlord and the neighbor started, that was when I found out about the gun. I went to check on the landlord because he has had some medical issues. After a few minutes over there the sheriff shows up and we leave the landlord’s front yard. We want nothing to do with the situation.
We hang out in our front yard with the dogs and the kids, the neighbor’s house is behind ours, so we thought we had enough distance.
When the sheriff comes up our drive and goes behind our house to the neighbor’s house, we start gathering stuff up to head inside. That is when another round of shouting starts. The neighbor is arguing with the sheriff and refusing to leave his house. It just gets louder and louder. I tell Greg we need to get out of here. That was when we got the dogs inside and we go across the street. Where else can you go during a pandemic?
We were there long enough for me to drink a half bottle of wine. Two more cop cars show up. When the third one comes they check to see if we are home. Greg runs across the street and informs them no one is inside the shouting sent warning signs for us to vacate but the dogs are inside.
Finally, they arrested him and told us we were good to go home and all guns were confiscated. Which we later found out that the last part was a lie.
Since he was arrested I wanted to make sure his girlfriend that lived with him was okay. She was at work when all this was going down. I was on the phone with Greg’s boss (he missed a call because we couldn’t go into our house so I wanted to apologize to his boss) when the girlfriend pulled up.
I walked over to make sure she was okay. She was not informed of his arrest. Talk about an awkward conversation.
There was a protection order/ no-contact order put in place with the neighbor and the landlord. The neighbor is still awaiting his charges for Felony Menace with Weapon Charges. He did get evicted over 60 days ago and still has not vacated the premises (this does not fall under the protection of the no eviction order since a crime was committed and he violated his no disturbance clause of his lease plus he is still getting disability and his girl still works).
When he got out we became his targets. He videotapes my children, he stalks our house, he knew our schedules. He verbally assaults my husband via text and to his face. It has gotten to the point where we are scared to go outside and we had to boarder up our back windows because he has cameras pointed in our house.
The first videotape was when my husband was mowing the backyard with my son. When Greg saw he was filming them he asked if they were being filmed. The neighbor said, “Yes.” Greg asked, “Why.” The neighbor responded, “It is just something to do on a nice day.”
That was the first time we called the cops.
He called the cops a few weeks later concerned for my son’s safety, said he was afraid the lawnmower would cut his foot. The cop pointed him to the Child Abuse Hotline. Then CPS called me… and called me… it was the same video over and over he submitted. You ask how I know this. Because that was the only time Greg had mowed this year until a week ago after the CPS calls and Eli was inside with me or with sissy if I had to step out to check on Greg.
The accusations were dismissed, they said my kid was not being harmed in any way shape, or form and reported the calls as malicious reporting.
We have called the cops about a half a dozen times due to his stalking and filming of my children. One night we even put the cars in the backyard as a barrier to keep him from filming and he walks around the property to see what we were doing.
We were asked to stop calling unless we are granted a protection order ($84 a person plus about a month of waiting to see if a judge would even approve it), or we get assaulted or shot. Protect and Serve should not be their job description if they say to wait until you get assaulted for us to do anything.
Rumor has it he still won’t plead guilty he wants the DA to make him a better deal. He goes back to court middle of July for another hearing.
We sit inside on hot summer days because the window the AC goes in I caught him filming us through last week. I boarded up all the windows but it got so hot I had to take the boards out of the window in the living room just to get air in my house.
We live in constant fear after finding out they only confiscated the weapons involved, not all his weapons which means he has a handful of guns in that house still. It only took 6 days for an officer to inform me of that.
The landowner is putting up fencing around my house to help protect my kids, but the neighbor keeps destroying the no trespassing signs. When he walks to the mailbox he has his phone on his hip pointed at me and the kids when we are just enjoying time in our front yard, and he watches us like a hawk.
I heard so many people say it should be illegal for him to film your kids but the cops say he is in his legal right even if he walks on my side of the property. Which is interesting since the cops told us to stay off his side of the property. Greg had to even go to the landowner for permission to mow the backfield and help put up the fence since the neighbor threatened to charge him with trespassing.
People have told me to film him back… we tried it just makes things worse for our kids. I know a lot of people are worried about police budgets being cut since the George Floyd incident. However, what I have experienced these last 3 months is what job are they doing if they are not preventing assault. What job are they doing if you have to pay for protection before they protect you? Maybe if they lived by the words the describe their job, “Protect and serve,” maybe they would not be facing so much backlash.
Laws need to change. People should have privacy, people should not die when being arrested unless they initiate a shoot out, a cop should do everything in their power to keep people especially kids safe. I am sorry to say they have yet to prove to me they are helping situations opposed to making them worse.
As a mom I want my kids to feel safe, to enjoy their summer with a pandemic or without. It has taken a lot of energy out of me to make them feel safe, but I will keep on fighting. I hope you understand why I disappeared and why I may be sporadically MIA. And yes this all started by telling a dog owner to put his dogs on a leash.