To all you mama’s out there you are brave and you are strong and we are going to get through this crazy time in the world’s history. I know every day is scary and poses new challenges but we will get through this, maybe with a little less hair and sanity but this too shall pass. There is always hope.
As I was sitting down getting ready to write this, I thought what should the focus be. I could write about the hysteria and the toll it takes on mothers. I could write about homeschooling tips and tricks to make your life easier, or maybe the toll it takes on moms and kids. I could write about the stress this COVID-19 has caused. I could write about how the government sending everyone money is a good thing because with the cost of living going up yet wages staying the same the middle class could not have even planned for this, or how the government and the news are more confusing than helpful. Then I asked myself how would that help? How would any of that help you? Honestly, it wouldn’t.
Earlier this month I published a post about things you could do to help you through this crazy time. So I won’t cover that again. Click here to check that post out.
That is why today I want to talk about the hopes I have for when the dust clears. There is no doubt in my mind that this has changed each and every one of us in one way or another.
I know for many of you that you, your spouse or both of you got laid off or lost your job(s). It is an extra scary time. Yeah the mortgage, utility, and the lenders are working with you right now, but you know it adds up and the future is so uncertain. I know the feeling because I was there 2 years ago when my husband and I both lost our jobs, the bills kept piling up and we had to use our credit cards to put food on the table, not to mention a child with special needs and the state Medicaid system did not cover the therapy she needed, so the medical bills kept piling up too.
My message for you is you will come out of this. Even though it seems impossible you will. It won’t happen overnight and it may take a few years to start seeing the light, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope, hold on to hope.
In those few years however you will grow, you will become wiser, you will teach your kids lessons that no textbook would teach. You will show your kids you can still live your life with little money, that laughter costs nothing, and the simple things like a good family movie night and some microwave popcorn (you bought on sale and with a coupon) make or break a day. You will teach them that a simple walk outside is filled with tales and lessons only those that can learn to appreciate, can enjoy. You will learn that “the Joneses” have nothing compared to your wealth of love and life lessons. Hang in there because there are so many blessings heading your way!
My hopes of the world are simple. Not just that we come out of this but we come out of this wiser in ways no one could imagine.
I was watching the news the other day and there was a financial head honcho on there and he was talking about the countries financial state. He said he doesn’t believe we will go into a recession. In my eyes a recession is inevitable. Not so much because money will be low, but because we have learned to prep, and tuck money away for a crisis if we can.
I hope that we as a people have gotten wiser with our money, not just in the savings area, but also with our spending. Most stores are closed down and if we order online it takes longer to get the items to us. I hope we learn that we can live with less. That we DON’T NEED everything the experts recommend. I hope we learn to spend wiser and with more purpose.
I hope that after all this that we have learned not to take the small things for granted, like walks, or our kid’s laughter, even a sunrise or a sunset. We all got so busy we forgot, for a long time, to truly stop and appreciate the small things.
I hope we stop taking time for granted. We all have a list of “one day” and “someday we will do that” things. It always seemed that life got in the way. Maybe, after this, we learn we don’t have to work an extra 10 hours of OT to save up for that trip, or maybe we will learn just to tell the boss “no” so you can spend that time looking at the sunset.
Maybe it’s that movie you keep promising your kids your going to take them too but was too busy or tired to do it. And by the time you got to it, the movie is no longer in the theaters. Maybe now you realize the time with them is priceless and should outrank all else before it is too late.
Maybe it is taking the time to listen to your grandma’s stories, and the extra 10 hours you would spend at work would be better spent going to visit her once a week. Maybe because you realize there could be little time left to learn from her.
Maybe the time you said you would spend learning a new thing, or taking care of yourself. Maybe it’s the time you set aside for date night but something always came up. Whatever it is, I hope we have learned time is a precious thing. I hope after this we don’t just jump back into the grind and we have learned to prioritize our time with purpose.
I hope we all come out of this wiser about what life really is. It is not about the all mightly green, or that promotion, it’s not about being the best mom on the PTA or the one that throws the best parties, it’s not about being the person that has it all and always looks their best. Life is about being the person you have always admired. Life is about helping others whenever you can, however, you can. Life is about learning to laugh through the tough times and showing grace and humility through the best.
As a mom, my goal is to leave this world a better place for my kids and really all kids. Maybe as hard as it is to write and to hear COVID-19 was a blessing. It forced this fast pace world to stop, it forced us to stop and think about how we can be better people, it showed us what is really important. My only question for you is what are your hopes when we come out of this?
Until next month