Another month, a few more pages written. I hope your pages are full of memories, struggles, and successes. Here is a peek at what’s been going on behind the scenes in my life all the thoughts rattling in my brain while cooking along with my March’s Top 12 Healthy Dishes.
Man, oh man what a month! I still can’t believe it is going to be April! Well, a lot has happened this month some of which I will not get into, at least not yet, waiting to see how things will play out before I share. But! Here is one lesson I learned this month before sharing March’s Top 12 Healthy Dishes.
Today I want to discuss true friendship because something really hit me this month and hurt. We have all heard the quote “You make time for the things that matter,” and even though this is true sometimes people must prioritize. It doesn’t necessarily mean someone, or something means less than the other person, or thing, just that a person had to prioritize.
So why do I bring this up? Well, I was told this month that I was a shitty friend and treated someone poorly because they felt I wasn’t there for them when they needed me most.
Now in all fairness, I did distance myself, I had a lot going on. Years ago, when I apparently let this person down, I had just had a LEEP to remove some pre-cervical cancer cells for the 2nd time, my 3-year-old daughter was going in for a second surgery because there was a chance she had a tumor in one of her tonsils, I was selling a house, leaving a job I loved, moving away from family, and just was in my own head. So yes, I was distant because I needed to focus on my family and myself and didn’t want to burden anyone with my problems.
“You make time for the things that matter,” rang in my head because that is what this person said to me. When I hung up that phone I never felt so much self-loathing before. How could I be such a crappy friend? How could I make someone feel like they were not important to me?
A few days later I had an Ah-ha moment. I did make time for what mattered to me at that moment. My health, so I could keep taking care of my family and hopefully have another kid one day. My child’s health, so she could grow up and be all she can be healthy and happy. My family, because at the end of every blessed crappy crazy day they still know how to make me smile.
Yes, I may have been a crappy friend and I am sorry for that, but I was a damn good mother and wife. Sometimes prioritizing your life won’t make sense to everyone, sometimes some people will just have to wait, they must realize that your business is not always theirs. A true friend gets that, a true friend doesn’t hold a grudge for years, a true friend doesn’t mark your importance by how many phone calls you have had in a week, a month, a year, or even a decade. A true friend knows life is crazy busy and is just happy to hear your voice because you both finally had a window in your chaotic lives to get caught up.
See people, making time for what is important is not measured by the quantity of time we make. It is measured by the quality of the time and the memories we create in those moments.
So how did my story end? Honestly, I told my friend the truth, I was distant I withdrew myself because that is how I cope. I didn’t get into details because just by the tone of the conversation I could tell I hurt her and no matter what I said it wouldn’t have mattered. Therefore, I took all the blame. The number one thing I have learned with having an autistic kid, listen to understand not to reply so you can truly pick and choose your battles, and to be honest I have plenty of new battles I need to fight, I don’t need to spend my time with a battle that is over 3 years old.
I really hope we will remain, friends, maybe even have dinner if we are ever in the same town. But! Things will never be the same, and that is okay. I wish all the best for their family; life is too short for grudges. I am truly sorry for making her feel that way, for letting her down. Unfortunately, there are only 24 hours in a day.
Thank you for taking the time to read and get to know me a little bit better! As promised I would not let you go without recipes. Here are March’s Top 12 Healthy Dishes!
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